I’m sitting to write this and I can hear my boys playing downstairs. They’re loud. They’re a bit wild actually (I should probably check on that banging) but they sound like they’re having so much fun.
I haven’t had fun in a while. My life is fantastic-don’t get me wrong. We have healthy, happy kids. My husband loves his work and thus is generally in a good mood when he’s around.
We have a nice house and we’ve met nice friends. We even had a few of those friends over yesterday and it was a lovely time. I enjoyed myself.
But fun? Not so much.
Which moves me into a bit of a funk.
I once went to an “intuitive counselor” who supposedly could read you and tell you what you needed in life. I am not sure I totally believe in it, but I will tell you she was spot on in telling me what I was feeling and struggling with before I even said a word. She also predicted the cause and time of my mother’s illness and subsequent death from looking at her picture. So, even if I don’t totally believe, you can bet I listened to what she had to say that day.
You know what her diagnoses for me was? After giving me the goods on all that was “wrong” with me, do you know how she proposed solving it? Get into business for yourself and… have more fun.
That simple-have more fun. She looked right at me and said, you seem happy but dull. (Yikes!) You need to go out and have a really good bit of fun.
It sounds easy, but with kids and work and bills and cleaning and laundry and…well, and- it isn’t so simple.
But I need it. I can feel it in my bones. If I don’t start having some fun, everyone suffers.
Maybe I just need to redefine fun. I have to be realistic and recognize I am not jetting off to some exotic locale for fruity drinks with my man. There will be no strolling anytime soon. We can’t even really afford a night out AND a babysitter, so no dinner and movies for me unless it’s pizza and a kid flick.
So today I begin my quest to find fun in the life that I already have.
I think I’ll start with Batman and Robin who are downstairs fighting bad guys. At the very least, it should be fun saving the world from The Joker.
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