I swore I would never address this topic. I mean, it’s a family blog right? But, let’s be honest, when you’re being open about marriage and raising kids and everything else I confess to on a daily basis, it becomes almost impossible not to at least address the large elephant in the room.
My goal here is to entertain and maybe inspire so I will not bore (or scare) you with the challenges- uh, I mean details of having a sex life with three kids and two working parents. I mean, I am not a prude, but I am also not one to kiss and tell (except that one time in college when I kissed a really hot guy and told EVERYONE because, I mean… c’mon. So hot.) I won’t tell you that my husband seems totally oblivious to the extra 30 pounds, stretch marks and utter exhaustion that come with three kids while I can not seem to get past any of it. I will not tell you that we fit the perfect married cliche that all he wants is a weekend away for…well, you know and all I want is a the Dream Bed at the Westin Hotel for one solid weekend of-yep, you guessed it, sleep. He dreams of getaways that include secluded beaches and alone time. I dream of getaways that include me alone with blackout shades and room service. No, I won’t tell you any of that.
I will tell you this, when I got the opportunity to read the book The Mominatrix’s Guide to Sex, A No-Surrender Advice Book for Naughty Moms by Kristen Chase for my blog network book club, I er…jumped on it. Let’s just say, I am not above admitting I may need help in getting my groove back if you will. My husband is a good man, but everyone has their limits. If he thinks I’m hot, who am I to continuously argue with him? If Kristen Chase can help me figure out how to get back to my pre-baby self and enjoy life in my own home-not only during hotel getaways then read I will. Even if I don’t think I qualify, now or ever as “naughty”.
She has some great advice for moms with new babies including-keep taking care of yourself, which often is hard to do! I am on kid number three though, so I got showers and make up taken care of. I have even (mostly) thrown away the yoga pants. I was feeling pretty good about myself in the beginning. But then, the book takes a turn with chapters on all sorts of “adventurous” stuff. What I really learned was that I may actually be a prude after all.
Thanks for the info. Ms. Chase, but it looks like it’s off to the Westin for us. Maybe we can have three nights-one for sleeping and two for…
This post is part of the Silicon Valley Moms Book Club featuring The Mominatrix Guide To Sex by Kristen Chase. I received a free copy of the book as part of the book club and monthly discussion.
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