This was originally posted a few years ago. The Newlyweds now have a baby and we are heading into our 15th anniversary. Still, I feel exactly the same. What do you think about these marriage musings? I’d love to hear from you.
That may sound weird, but let’s be real; in marriage, you fight. And, from my perspective, there is some unwritten rule that you treat your spouse worse than anyone else in your life and expect way more from them in return, so the fighting can get ugly.
What we did that first year is figure out when to politely draw the line and when we needed to move the line further down the road. I gave up expecting The Husband to read my mind and he decided to be more forgiving when I reminded him to do stuff over and over and over. I know he’s not doing things on purpose and he knows I don’t think he’s a dope or worse vindictively forgetting to put clothes in hamper.
These days our problems are heavier and we have the added bonus of constant children background noise to remind us that not only do we need to figure our stuff out, but we are being watched while we do it. Thus, we are passing on a model of relationships to the next generation.
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