The following post was written when my daughter was in kindergarten. It reveals the mama-bear side of me, but also sheds some light on parenting triggers.
In the parenting group I’m running, A Mom for All Seasons, we’ve spent the last week talking about our own childhood experiences and how those can sometimes shape how we parent. We are talking a lot about triggers and the importance of identifying them so we can keep ourselves from parenting from a place of reaction and instead keep a calm energy as often as possible (We’re only human, right?) This post shows my awareness of my behavior but possibly my ignorance to how my own stuff would trigger me in the moment. Luckily, it all ended well. I didn’t make any angry parent calls or visit the playground to give the know it all a piece of my mind. (Phew!) In writing about the incident thought, it is clear I had some insight into how I could have handled it better so my daughter would have learned not to let meanies get her down. Ah, we’re all human, right? Keep reading if you want to see how I let my own stuff get in the way.
We’ve been mostly free from girl drama. That was until today…
“mom those aren’t the words.”
Here is where, as heat travels rapidly through my entire body, I say to myself, “Calm down, they are six. You must handle this appropriately so you can teach this future woman how to not throttle a person every time she’s challenged.”
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