One of the “problems” with moms that you read about over and over again is letting go of control. I deal with it sometimes with clients-both kids and adults-around food. Oh, man the control stuff that comes up with food! Anyway, I will admit that I too have trouble giving up control in some areas, like my kitchen (do NOT unpack my kitchen if you ever help me move) but I’m happy to accept help in many other areas. I’ve learned, sometimes the hard way, that help is necessary if we want to survive.
One of the areas I’ll happily give over control is the technology behind my websites. Try as I might, I just can’t crack the code of behind the scenes blogging. I can put up a post, even adding pictures. I can move around menus and such, but I have no idea what’s making the whole thing run every day. I ask questions of The Great Oz behind this site before doing almost anything and trust her (Yes, my OZ is a woman and she actually is all mighty and powerful.) answers implicitly when I get them. The difficulty comes when something goes wrong and I have no clue why and absolutely no power to fix it.
Case in point-the gaping hole at the top of this blog today. I have NO IDEA where my lovely Sue Barr Photos are and my header is, frankly, embarrasing. I feel like a naked blogger and the gravity ain’t pretty.
I’ve put in my requisite “Aaah! What the heck did I do? Help Fix it!” email to DSWP and now I will wait. I have no doubt they’ll help me figure out the problem. We’ve had some bumpy roads but overall, they always figure out the problem and fix it before any major damage is done. I’m crossing my fingers that the answer is quick and free or else we might all have to get used to an ugly header because fixing it is not in the budget. And above all, I’m learning about patience and letting go because try as I might, I can’t click around this mouse in any way that’s fixing this myself and I have no more time to devote to this fruitless pursuit. I must refocus my attention on the things I can control and just trust the process of the world that this will right itself. Easy to write, not so easy to do.
So, to you dear readers, I apologize for looking so bad this Monday morning. Please excuse me while I go take some deep breaths and try not to obsessively check my email inbox for that reply.
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