There hasn’t been much mention here of October Bride. That is pretty indicative of her personality. She is my youngest SIL and she has spent most of her life quietly getting stuff done without much call for notice.
The funny thing is, she is remarkable and we all notice. I have been around since She was 11. I was with her brother at a concert and we called (from a payphone-how old are we?!) her on her 12th birthday. She got a bike. That is how long I have known her-since she was young enough to get bikes as gifts. I have watched her grow and I am very proud. I apologize in advance if this post is a bit schmaltzy.
October Bride is wildly intelligent but she has no need to make sure everyone knows. She doesn’t join the family arguments much. I am sure she has an opinion, but she is fine not throwing it in the mix.
October Bride would like you to think she is tough and mean, but in truth she has a huge, warm heart. We used to catch her lovin‘ on our dog when she thought no one was looking then she would openly claim she hated him. Adorable.
We have seen her real toughness this year. October Bride has shared her engagement year with another sibling wedding and more than her share of family loss. It has been a roller coaster year of sorrow and great joy for both she and her groom. And yet, she says nothing. She graciously stands, head held high and accepts what life brings without complaint. She moves on and finds what is good and what is fun and that is what she shares with those around her. I am sure she has her moments-we all do. But they are short and they rarely involve too many others.
There was a day long ago when October Bride looked up to me. She wanted my shoes, my purse, my clothes. I was flattered. Quite frankly, I loved it. I had never had a younger sibling and I enjoyed being adored.
I am afraid now the tides have turned. I may be older but it is her that I look up to. I hope I can be half-the woman she is, when I grow up. I am inspired. I am in awe. I adore her future husband and have said so right here in this blog. But October Groom, I’m afraid you got nothin‘ on my Mary.
Cheers to the almost newlyweds. The world is lucky to have you.
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