I watched a movie the other night on the History Channel. I know, I know. You’re asking, really? The History Channel? You?
Yes, because Matt Damon was involved. Anyway, the movie was called The People Speak and it was based on the book A People’s History of the United States by Howard Zinn.This is neither a book nor a movie review, so I will leave it at this: I was reminded that our country has been changed by its people, the ones brave enough to speak up, over and over again (more than any history book tells us.)It left me wondering if I am brave enough to stand up for something. I came to the conclusion that I may not be. As a parent, that makes me feel terrible. Sure, I advocate for my kids-to a point. Often I back down if it gets too controversial or scary or hard. I don’t risk offending.
My job is to teach my children to stand up for what they believe in-even if it’s hard. Yet, here I sit-quiet, except around people I feel safe with. The problem is, as I’ve said before, I can be easily swayed. I am constantly seeking information and therefore constantly changing my mind. I rarely stand up for what I believe if it falls in controversial territory or if my opinion might risk hurting people’s feelings or alienating people. The reason is because I am never fully sure if I am 100% committed to any idea. If given a good counter argument, I may rethink my own opinions. So, I stay quiet. And that might make me a wimp or just a confused mind. I’m not even sure I can definitively stand up for that.
The other day I got on a conference call with medical professionals and cancer survivors. We were talking about cervical cancer and prevention.
I thought I knew how I felt about the HPV vaccine. It was one of the few topics where I had spoken out because I thought I was sure. Turns out I was wrong.
I’ll get into it more later but for now I’ll ask you-do you know what you believe in? Are you brave enough to stand up for it?
As a parent, can you settle for any less?
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